Etiquette Schmetiquette

by Jenny Bryde 27. July 2013 15:48

If you are at the point of your wedding planning where you are working on the wording of your invitation, I bet you are consulting resources on proper etiquette, right?  Most of you will say yes.  

One couple whose wedding invitation RSVP card was featured on ABC newscasts decided to throw caution to the wind and wildly disregard all advice and procedures.  Here are the options they provided their guests on the RSVP card:

Yes! I will be attending because…

-Two words: Free. Booze.

-I’m in your wedding party, idiot. Wait, is this optional?

-This is my only chance to play golf at Medinah & I plan on sneaking off during the toasts to play a quick round.

-I would never dream of missing it! After all, knowing the Kerr/Sabino Family (circle one) this should be a night full of must-see fun/drama/ridiculous dancing (circle one)!

No. I won’t be attending because…

-I’m lame. On a scale of one to ten, my lameness would be in the 9.5 to 9.8 range.

-I’ll be watching the Cubs win the World Series

Edit: these options are meant to be circumstances that could actually happen.

-I will be visiting, um, Yemen. Yeah, Yemen. But it’s a secret trip. So if you ask anyone, they will have no clue what you’re talking about.

-I don’t know who you people are or how you got my address. Leave me alone! (Oh, and congrats on your upcoming nuptials.)


This couple clearly are a lot of fun, and their personalities were put on display with the witty options they gave their guests.  How cool!  Now this couple went waaaaaaaay outside of the realms of "normal".  What are you doing to put your personal touch on your wedding invitations?  Do you adhere strictly to wedding etiquette, or do you get a little crazy?  Do tell!


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How to Gather RSVPs Electronically

by Jenny Bryde 6. January 2013 16:15

So on the side, I'm pretty much a techie geeky nerdo-rama.  I love finding cool new ways to solve problems, and it just so happens that a huge problem that we brides and grooms to be find ourselves facing is the collection of RSVP information when we send out our invitations.  We snail mail our beautiful invites, and we wait and wait for the RSVP cards to return.  Once we have them all back, we sort our data.  A pile of those who are coming, a list of those who aren't, a jumble of paper sitting on your desk that can be a logistical nightmare in the end.  How about entrusting our old friend Mr. Internet to take care of the dirty work for us?

Here's one way to do it...

1) Create a free Google account if you don't already have one.  Hint - if you use Gmail, you already have a Google account.  

2) Go to and log in using your Google account username and password.  Your Google Drive is like your hard drive where you can save documents only it's up in the "cloud" aka stored on the internet rather than on your physical computer.  

3) Click on the red "create" button, and choose the "form" option.  On this page, you can design questions in any way you see fit.  You can ask people to enter all kinds of information such as name, number of people coming, meal choice, etc.  You can choose different themes to make it "pretty" up in the top left corner, and when you're all done entering information, you can save your form.  Made a mistake?  No worries, you can come back and edit your form whenever necessary.

4) Back on your Google Drive page, select the form that you just created by checking the box in the lower left hand corner, and then clicking the button that looks like a plus and a person on the top of the page.  This will let you set the sharing options.  

5) Change the sharing option to read that anyone with the link may view the page.  This lets you share the link with anyone that you want who can use the form to enter a response without having to sign in.  Your form won't appear in search engines, so the chances of anyone other that those you give the link to viewing the page is slim.  

6)  Copy and paste the URL into an email or add it to your invite.  Hint - use to create a shorter web address to share.  Once shared with your guests, you can sit back and wait for responses to come in.  The responses will be automatically collected and arranged in a spreadsheet for you to view.  

7)  While viewing the form, select tools from the menu bar, and then select "notification".  You can choose how often you'd like to be notified of any entries made on the form.  Maybe you want to know right away when someone has entered an RSVP, or maybe you want a summary at the end of each day.  

The beauty of this whole ordeal is that the data is collected for you, and you can sort the data and figure out your wedding "logistics" much quicker than if you had to compile this information all on your own.  If you still prefer to send out the physical RSVP card, you could still do a Google form and just enter the data on your own and let the computer still do all the work for your data crunching.  

Need a visual?  Check out this video tutorial...



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A Reminder and A Warning...

by Jenny Bryde 2. September 2009 03:35

G'morning, folks!  Before I jump in with both feet into this post, I wanted to bring something up for you to think about and comment...

There has been some discussion on the forum about how some people use the forum, some people read the blog, and some people weren't sure what they needed to use in order to participate in the community.  

My answer to any confusion would be.....(drum roll, please)....Both! is an evolving company and saw the need to incorporate social networking into its online environment.

The site has been around for about 10 or so years.  When I first started looking for wedding information, I found it to be an extremely useful source of information.  

The discussion forum came next, and if you've used it, you can see that any registered user can post a topic, question, suggestion, review, etc, and others can comment and help out.  Vendors and clients interact, and there is also a space for people to buy or sell wedding related items.  

The blog came this year, and we have tried to keep it quite active over the last few months.  Our goal for the blog was to provide frequently updated information for everyone who reads it on current local wedding information.  We want to incorporate more vendor interviews and also do some profiles on some QC area brides and grooms to learn about their wedding processes.  We want to put some questions or wedding trends out there for you all to ponder and give input.  

Both the forum and the blog can be used as a place to comment or ask questions.  One doesn't cancel the other out.  

I think that I can safely speak for in saying that the purpose of our site, forum, and blog is to provide you with the best wedding information and online opportunities available in our area.  The decisions for the online community are made in order for it to be a more useful experience for our brides and grooms and families.  

In saying that, I should also note here that on the forum or on the blog you can always give us feedback, leave questions, and make suggestions.  You know best what you want, so don't be shy, and speak up!  :)


Now to my warning of the day....RSVP.  

Répondez s'il vous plaît.  Respond, if you please.  Please, respond.  Hey, you!  Answer, @#$^^!

Ettiquette tells us that invitations go out somewhere between 6 and 8 weeks before an event so that our guests have enough time to think and respond before our catering head counts are due.  (Depending on your situation, you certainly may need to adjust this schedule.)  But all of us probably expect that the responses should come rolling in as soon as our fingers let go of the envelopes so that they can slide into the mailbox.  In a world of instant gratification, we still hold near and dear to our hearts the thought of sending and receiving actual mail but become confused/irate/purplexed when we do not receive responses from all immediately.  If you are naive like I am, you'll expect a 100% response rate.  We need to be prepared to have our percent botched down a few percentage points...

How are all of you doing as far as receiving responses from your invited guests?  Whether you are waiting to hear back about your wedding, bridal shower, engagement party, etc, are the people you are inviting being good about returning those cards, emails, or phone calls?  How close can you get to your actual date before you start to stalk your guests in order to solicit a response?  Have you handled this matter delicately, or have you become a full on Bridezilla or Groomzilla?  

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