What to Do When Someone Steals Your Ideas

by Jenny Bryde 28. January 2013 00:35

I'm an adult.  I'm a professional.  I'm an educated and kind person.  I brake for squirrels and small children.  I'd sum myself up as being nice 99.9% of the time.

The .1% left over when the nice is swept away can be snarky, catty, and vindictive.  What brings this tiny yet powerful piece of my persona out to play?  Well, dear friends, let me tell you a story.  

Once upon a time there was a girl who had an amazing idea.  She felt very passionate about this idea and wanted to bring the idea to life so that all her friends and family could see it in action.  She researched it, planned it, and purchased the materials required for said idea.  She even went as far as confiding in a friend all the details of the idea since she just could contain this wonderful big idea inside of her heart anymore.  

Two weeks later, when revisiting her confidante friend, this girl sees her idea only it's been twisted, warped, and forced to fit her friend's life.  The girl feels surprised, shocked, annoyed, and vengeful.  This was her idea.  This friend stole it and ruined it.

Sound familiar?  It should.  To a degree, this happens to EVERY BRIDE.  I'm here to explain both sides.

First of all - Your wedding is a big deal no doubt, and every bride wants their day to be magazine-cover perfect with originality, personality, beauty, and grace.  If you find ideas that you feel really awesome about to the point of wanting to share, maybe share with someone who isn't getting married would be key.  Why not pick just one person who will be your trusted source of all things wedding sharing.  For me, I'd choose my mom.  She's not getting married.  She is happy if I'm happy.  She's a great soundboard.  She'd never share my info if I didn't want her to.  Perfect!  Find someone like that.  

On the other hand - Brace yourselves, brides, because what I'm about to tell you is hard to swallow.  There really aren't all that many "original" ideas anymore.  If you find a picture on the internet or see an articile in a magazine and say "Ooooh!  I'm going to do that!" then you need to agree that it wasn't your idea.  You can't necessarily "claim" it, although it certainly is annoying if everyone else seems to want to claim it as well.  We want to be original.  So instead, put a spin on the idea that you saw so that it is specific to you.  How can you make this idea YOURS?

Also keep in mind - If someone steals your idea, while it's SUPER annoying, it is also complimentary.  That idea that you hatched is SO GOOD that the friend is willing to forgo niceties to take the idea and duplicate it.  The best, best, best move you can make her is to be gracious and ignore them.  Maybe confide in that one person how annoyed you are, but I wouldn't make this an end of the road for a friendship or a reason to have a public outburst.  In the end, at your wedding, no one at all is going to say...hmm...this centerpiece/cake/dance is just like what so-and-so told me they want to do.  Everyone is going to be focusing on how happy you and your new spouse look and how wonderful a celebration it is and how happy they are to be a part of your day.

The .1% of my persona that comes out when I have an idea stolen is a really quick, strong part of my inner ego.  I have to work hard sometimes when an idea that I had was "stolen", but in the end, we need to look at the bigger picture.  This isn't a seed spitting contest.  It's your wedding.  So forget the "stealers" and focus on your sweetheart.  

In the meantime, here are some ideas that you're welcome to steal because I think they are too awesome not to pass on!

 


Source: ohhappyday.com via Jen on Pinterest


















Source: tealandlime.com via Jen on Pinterest

















 

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