Complaints From Your Future Wedding Guests

by Jenny Bryde 14. July 2014 01:15

It's been a while since we touched on wedding etiquette, so I decided to dedicate this post to a random assortment of wedding etiquette topics.  A heads up that most topics can be debated on either side, but all are interested and necessary to consider when you're planning your wedding.  A good way to think about things is to weigh the pros cons for both the wedding couple, the family, and the guests.  Let's take a closer look at some examples of real life guest complaints afterr attending weddings.  (All of these examples were pulled word for word from wedding chat boards and other websites.)

1) "I went to my "friend's" wedding last summer, in which she had several etiquette breaches, starting with the invitations. I, fortunately, was invited to the entire wedding- ceremony, reception, and cousin, a mutual friend, was invited to just the dance part..."  In this case, it looks like the couple wanted to tailor a wedding with a more intimate gathering for the ceremony.  It also looks like they maybe tried to save money by not inviting certain groups to eat the dinner at the reception but rather to come just to the dance part.  My unbiased opinion?  This is more than okay for the ceremony, but if some guests get fed and others don't, word will spread and people will just not get it.  I would suggest budgeting for a menu and a size of reception that can accommodate all persons you'd like to invite to the reception.  I think it's totally fine to have a smaller gathering for a ceremony.

2) "I had a long term boyfriend and he was not listed on the invitation, which I thought must have been a mistake, so I called and asked if I could bring him- which she said was fine....but 2 weeks before the wedding, she told me not to."  Sometimes in order to tailor the attendance, brides and grooms will decide for or against inviting friends' dates or friends' children or what not.  This can be done for budget reasons or just to keep the gathering from getting to an out of control free for all.  Guests simply will have a wide variety of acceptance levels for this.  Some people grew up in areas where a wedding invite was an open call for you to bring anyone you'd like and that often the whole community would turn out for a wedding.  Brides and grooms need to be specific if they wish to not invite children, for example.  They can do this with specific wording and/or follow up phone calls for the rsvps.  Above all, once you decide whether or not to include certain groups of people, try to make that decision consistent across the board, and for heaven's sake, do not change your mind two weeks before the wedding.  

3) "Well, I showed up at the wedding...the ceremony was nice...but afterwards we had to wait almost THREE HOURS to eat!"  This kind of long wait often happens because brides and grooms wait to see each other until the actual ceremony which pushes all formal family/wedding party pictures until after the ceremony.  Depending on the size of the group and the organization, this picture session can make your guests wait, and wait, and wait.  Here are some ways to combat this.  First, work with your photographer so that there is a specific line up of which picture goes when.  Your photographer will not know names of friends and relatives, so appoint someone to help the photographer by keeping an "on deck" group ready to jump in for the next picture.  For your guests, provide some sort of entertainment and/or sustenance while they wait.  Appetizers, music, or fun activities will help the time go by quickly.  You could also consider taking formal pictures before the ceremony if you and your fiance are open to seeing each other before the ceremony.

4) "It was a CASH BAR! I didn't bring any money to the wedding, so I couldn't drink anything...huge bummer..."  This is a tough one.  Having a cash bar is a relief to the wedding budget because an open bar can encourage people to drink more than normal since they wouldn't pick up the tab.  Even if everyone had a "normal" ammount of alcohol, a large wedding can wrack up a huge charge for someone to pick up.  If you opt for a cash bar, you could consider paying for kegs of beer or X amount of bottles of wine.  You could also try to pick a location that had an ATM on site.  Note to all wedding guests: you should probably carry a little cash or a charge card to all weddings if drinking alcoholic beverages is important to you.  You just never know what the bride and groom have planned, and most likely, it would not be specified on any invitation information. 

5) "The dance started and all they played was theme songs to Star Wars, Ghost Busters, and Star Trek...."  First, I want to state that I completely encourage couples to personalize their wedding including the music to suit their tastes.  It's your wedding, and you don't have to go with cookie cutter everything.  If you have a very non-traditional taste in music, consider mixing things up.  Think about what your guests like.  If they aren't all trekkies, you're going to want to throw in some top 40 hits to get them on the dance floor.  There is nothing worse than an empty dance floor, if you ask me. 

There are tons of these kinds of random rants from wedding guests out there, and we'll address more in the future.  What do you all think?  Which of these do you care about?  Which of these will make you say "oh well"?  Chime in!




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Henna Inspired Wedding

by Jenny Bryde 14. July 2014 00:54

Detailed, delicate, and beautiful, henna tattoo designs can be simply breathtaking.  Often they are incorporated into wedding traditions for specific cultures, but anyone is able to enjoy this temporary tattoo whether it is put on a body or incorporated into a wedding design aspect.  Check out these henna inspired wedding pictures!



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Pregnant and Engaged - What to Wear?

by Jenny Bryde 6. July 2014 01:55

If you're pregnant and planning a wedding, clap your hands!  You've got two major life milestones hurling themselves toward you, and you are the queen of multitasking!  Whether your wanting to hide your tummy a while longer or ready to flaunt it to the world, there is a wedding dress for you.  The rule numero uno with your dress choice should be comfort.  Being pregnant can be very taxing on your body whether your battling some queasiness or just carrying extra weight which puts strain on your back and feet.  Your wedding day is a lot of you on your feet with walking and dancing, so pick a garment that is going to help and not hinder your comfort.  Here are some great choices!



A Great Way to Repurpose Your Wedding Gown - Lila's Dresses

by Jenny Bryde 6. July 2014 01:36

Your wedding was beautiful.  You danced, you celebrated, and now you've begun your new life as a married couple.  Where is your wedding dress?  Is it in a closet?  Are you saving it?  Selling it?  Trashing it ala a trash the dress session?  Some people are stumped on what to do, and so for some of you, I have a great solution.  

We have a local organization called Lila's Dresses sponsored by Runge Mortuary, and their mission is to make dresses to clothe stillborn babies from discarded wedding dresses.  What a wonderful gift for you to send to a couple going through something tragic.  The cloth from your dress is filled with your love and would be put to good use for families who need some help getting through the funeral of a child.  Please visit the Facebook page for Lila's Dresses by clicking here.  Contact info for questions like where to send your dress can be found there!  



Top Wedding Song Suggestions

by Jenny Bryde 30. June 2014 02:13

Happy Monday everyone!  It's officially Music Monday around here, and to get us going, I found a list of a DJ's top 100 wedding songs.  There is a huge mix of old and new in here, so hopefully this gives you some great ideas for what kinds of tunes you'd like to play on your big day!  Call me a ham, but here are my personal faves - The Luckiest by Ben Folds, and Everything I Do by Brian Adams.  Check the list out for yourself!


My Heart Will Go On – Celine Dion
Everything I Do (I Do It For You) – Brian Adams
How Do I Live – Leanne Rimes
How Sweet It Is – James Taylor
I Could Not Ask For More – Sarah Evans
I Do It For You (Everything I Do) – Bryan Adams
After All is Said and Done – Beyonce
After All – Peter Cetera & Cher
I Have and I Always Will – Dave Barnes
I Hope You Dance – Lee Ann Womack
At Last – Etta James
Because Of You – Tony Bennett / Connie Francis
Because You Loved Me – Celine Dion
Something About The Way You Look Tonight – Elton John
Somewhere Out There – Linda Ronstadt
Almost Paradise – Mike Reno & Ann Wilson
Always – Atlantic Starr
Spanish Eyes – Engelbert Humperdink
Lean On Me – Bill Withers
Let It Be – Beatles
Let It Be Me – Everly Brothers
Stand By Me – Ben E King
Stay With Your – John Legend
Better Together – Jack Johnson
Breathe – Faith Hill
Can You Feel The Love Tonight – Elton John
Can’t Help Falling In Love – Elvis Presley
Making Memories of Us – Keith Urban
Me and You – Kenny Chesney
All The Way – Frank Sinatra / Celine Dion
It Had To Be You – Artie Shaw / Harry Connick Jr
It’s Your Love – Tim McGraw & Faith Hill
Just You And I – Eddie Rabbitt
Unforgettable – Nat King Cole & Natalie Cole
Until You – Dave Barnes
All for Love – Bryan Adams
Everything You Do – Marc Anthony
Faithfully – Journey
Feels Like Home – Chantel Kreviazuk
Twilight Time – The Platters
Unchained Melody – Righteous Brothers
From This Moment – Shania Twain
Glory of Love – Peter Cetera
Hero – Mariah Carey
True Love Ways – Buddy Holly
Truly Madly Deeply – Savage Garden
Hero – Enrique Iglesias
Greatest Love Of All, The – Whitney Houston
Grow Old With Me – John Lennon / Mary Chapin Carpenter
Have I Told You Lately – Van Morrison / Rod Stewart
I’ll Be – Edwin McCain
I’ll Be There – Michael Jackson
Have You Ever Really Loved A Woman – Brian Adams
Hello Again – Neil Diamond (From Jazz Singer)
Here and Now – Luther Vandross
All My Life – Linda Ronstadt
All Of Me – Harry Connick Jr
Power Of Love, The – Celine Dion
First Song List For Wedding Reception Continued:
Rose, The – Bette Midler
Saving All My Love For You – Whitney Houston
Sea of Love – Honey Drippers
Someone Like You – Van Morrison
I Will Not Take My Love Away – Matt Wertz
In My Life – Bette Midler
1,2,3,4 – Plain White T’s
Taking You Home – Don Henley
Way You Look Tonight – Frank Sinatra
We’ve Got Tonight – Kenny Rogers
We’ve Only Just Begun – Carpenters
What a Wonderful World – Louie Armstrong
I Loved Her First – Heartland
I Melt – Rascal Flats
There You’ll Be – Faith Hill (From Pearl Harbor)
There’s a Kind of Hush (All Over The World) – Herman’s Hermits
Fly Me To The Moon – Frank Sinatra
Fooled Around & Fell In Love – Elvin Bishop
Forever & For Always – Shania Twain
A Moment Like This – Kelly Clarkson
A Thousand Miles – Vanessa Carlton
Through The Years – Kenny Rogers
Top Of The World – The Carpenters
Amazed – Lonestar
When You Say Nothing At All – Allison Krauss
Wonderful Tonight – Eric Clapton
You Are So Beautiful – Joe Cocker
You Raise Me Up – Josh Groban
Always On My Mind – Willie Nelson
You’ve Got A Friend – James Taylor
Your Smiling Face – James Taylor
Keeper Of The Stars – Tracy Byrd
Lady – Kenny Rogers
Lady In Red – Chris DeBurgh
Let Me Call You Sweetheart / Bing Crosby / Bette Midler
Come Away With Me – Norah Jones
Could I Have This Dance – Anne Murray
Let’s Stay Together – Al Green
Looking Through the Eyes of Love – Melissa Manchester
Lost In The Fifties Tonight – Ronnie Milsap
L-O-V-E – Nat King Cole
Love Is In The Air – John Paul Young
You Send Me – Sam Cooke
You’re Still The One – Shania Twain
My Special Angel – Bobby Helms
Nothings Gonna Stop Us Now – Starship
On a Night Like This – Dave Barnes
One – U2
Ebb Tide – Frank Sinatra / Righteous Brothers / Platters
Eternal Flame – The Bangles
When A Man Loves A Woman – Percy Sledge
When I Said I Do – Clint Black
Crazy Love – Van Morrison
Cruisin – Huey Lewis & Gwyneth Paltrow / Smokey Robinson
Don’t Change – Musiq Soulchild
Drift Away – Uncle Cracker
Earth Angel – Penguins
Up Where We Belong – Joe Cocker
Valentine – Martina McBride & Jim Brickman
Way You Do The Things You Do – The Temptations
Everything – Lifehouse
Everything – Michael Buble
Collide – Howie Day
Colour My World – Chicago
Must Be Doin Somethin Right – Billy Currington
All My Life – KC and JoJo
The Luckiest – Ben Folds

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